i said to my beautiful wife Valerie the other day something along the lines of ?what do people write statuses [stati?] about on Facebook if they are not entering into a relationship or having a baby? [or these days in americaland making some kind of staunchly pro this party or anti that one political statement] as it just seemed like the majority of statuses [stati?] i was reading were about one of those?
two things come out of that, the one for those of you who are celebrating is this:
for people who are single and don?t want to be or those who have lost a child or been struggling to have one, these must be incredibly difficult posts to read ? depending on the amount of friends you have and how filtered or not your feed is ? because it is hard to celebrate someone else?s status when you are mourning your own?
and so it becomes a tough one ? because you don?t want to, and shouldn?t minimise your excitement merely because someone else has gone through a hardship? but i think being aware, and even intentionally so ? making some kind of motion towards someone you know who your status may be hurtful for ? is a really life building thing to do? acknowledging [in a behind-the-scenes personal email or a live take-them-out-for-coffee invitation] that they might be going through a hurtful time and is there anything you can do or be aware of that might help?
realising that while your new relationship or engagement or new baby is the focus of attention for you now and is the center of your world and rightly so? that for some people out there it is simply one of six new relationships, two new engagements and five new babies that they are seeing?
this is a tightrope and a tricky one and i don?t know that there is any answer beyond awareness and sensitivity and possibly taking a step when it is someone you are really close to that is that person who might be hurting? i do imagine that being straight with them [in terms of how much they may want to hear about your new relationship or baby] could be a healthy thing or just giving them space to speak about their situation and hurt or loneliness or current vibe.
this all sounds a little morbid. but it?s not. or doesn?t have to be. i think this is an incredible opportunity to discover and celebrate community. that somehow, at the same time we can celebrate with those who celebrate but also mourn with those who mourn [or just be bummed with those who are bummed].
anyone else have any thoughts on this..?
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